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It’s OK to Be You

If you're like most people, you soIt’s OK to Be Youmetimes feel the pressure to behave a certain way in order to be accepted. Beginning in childhood, some children feel like they're not good enough just the way they are. They feel that they must say or do certain things that will cause others to like them more.

Do you feel like you're not good enough? Do you care a lot about what others think of you? Do you put more weight on what they think over what you think? Do you feel like you're striving or wearing yourself out, in an attempt to fit a certain mold?

Living in an unauthentic way

When you're not living your authentic self, and you don't feel like it's okay or safe to be who you really are, you can become very bogged down. It can cause a great deal of anxiety and perhaps even depression. It can lead some people to drinking or taking drugs in order to numb that pain or run from their feelings.

Society in general can to add to the pressure. You feel as if you must live the dream and be as successful as the Joneses. You feel like if you're not living up to a certain standard, then something is wrong with you or you’re somehow failing in life. 

Each journey is unique

The reality is that there is no right or wrong. Every person on this planet is doing their own life journey, here to experience their own unique lessons. Here to overcome certain challenges. Here to journey through some things and hopefully come to a place where they remember who they really are:

The reality is that you are good enough, no matter what your past has been. No matter what you have or haven't done. No matter how much money you make, the color of your skin or your sexuality. You are good enough. And, you are okay just as you are.

The next time you hear this thought circling around in your mind, “I'm not good enough” or “I'm not okay just as I am,” consider the following tips:

We are all imperfect 

No one on Earth has arrived. No one is the bee’s knees. We are all perfectly imperfect in various ways. So, the next time you're comparing yourself to someone else or someone says something and you take it personally, remember that we're all here learning unique lessons about ourselves and life in general. There's no instruction manual when it comes to navigating life on Earth, so don't expect perfection. Rather, shoot for progress and shoot for embodying self-love no matter what's going on. 

Take your thoughts with a grain of salt

Much of the time your subconscious mind is running the show, 95% in actual fact. The thoughts that are swirling around in your subconscious mind are not necessarily true. They're not necessary reality. That belief you picked up when you were three years old that you're not good enough is not reality. Nor the thought that you'll end up alone, that no one loves you or everything you do never works out. Take those negative thoughts with a grain of salt. You are good enough. You are loved. You'll never be alone. 

Make a commitment to love yourself no matter what

There may be a part of you that feels unworthy or unlovable. Make a commitment right now that you will love that part of you no matter what. No matter what's happened or how things are going, you commit to loving yourself. Why? Because love is healing. Love is accepting. Love is affirming, and this is what we all deserve. 

Begin to understand the mindset that all you have is this moment. All you have is today. This is reality. The past is the past and the future has not even occurred yet. It's okay to be you right now, today. It's okay to be you even if you're sad or mad or anxious. It's okay to be you even if you are struggling with something serious, like an addiction or a health issue. Proudly be you. If you don't exactly like the behaviors that you are displaying, then you can work toward changing those behaviors. At the same time, be accepting of yourself at your very core. Affirm yourself at that level – at the soul level. If you find that you just cannot come to an acceptance of who you are, consider reaching out for help from someone who will mirror the truth to you. The truth that at your core are an amazing, beautiful being full of potential. That you're alright just as you are, on the way to where you're going.